I love you, so let me fix that for you.

Posted on by Billie Jean

I struggle with being “controlling.” I call it “Love.”

I don’t want anyone to hurt.

Here, let me fix that FOR you. This has the unwanted side effect of removing their accountability to themselves, as well as the built-in opportunity to learn from their mistakes.

And I did that with my “rescuing,” my “love.” But I’ll call it what it is. Control. If I control their circumstances… If I rescue this person I love so much (and I do!) then not only do I get to be the hero for a moment, but I am spared the often intense agony of knowing she is suffering (or just struggling.) and I HATE that feeling, especially when it lingers. Then, that means I also would have to TRUST God His good and perfect outcome to her situation. (And we all know it’s much easier to tell someone else to believe and have faith, than for us to do the hard work of faith and trust and prayer and WAITING…literally “living on a prayer.”

But I must if I’m to grow in love towards someone I love deeply, but haven’t been showing love to in a way that really benefits them. This poem by #JuneHunt is key.

hopefortheheart.nyc3.digitaloceanspaces.com/2020/06/Releasing-You-Poem.pdf

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Published by Billie Jean

I teach and write about adult autistic IDD students' social, independent-living, and job related skills. I believe I've found part of my calling in this. I enjoy thinking about what motivates people to overcome personal challenges. I think that for the most part, people are awesome. You just have to learn which ones are worth your effort and sacrifice. Be blessed.

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